marți, 21 iulie 2009


Everyone wants to be happy and noone wants to suffer but very few people understand the concept of happiness or suffering and the reasons which lie underneath. Happiness is a state of mind so the real source of happiness must lie within the mind, not in external conditions. Most of us tend to look for happiness in the outside world, we need an external stimulus, something that can motivate us to be happy. How many rich people owning luxurious cars, state-of-the-arts appliances, dream houses are truly happy? We spend almost all our life adjusting the outside world to our wishes, thinking that by achieving our goals we would also be happy. But the truth is that happiness is not to be found in material belongings. All our lives we have tried to surround our selves with people and things that make us feel comfortable or secure and we fool ourselves thinking that this is true happiness.

True happiness is not related in any way to what you own in the outside world, it's what you own in the inside that counts. Happiness is a state of mind which should never disappear. Changing car after car after car will never bring you happiness unless you change who you are.

Dharma in Buddhism and Hinduism has a broad understanding and a precise translation of the term has not been clearly agreed upon until now. Its meaning can vary from "life" to "manner of being". As I am romantic, I always chose to use the reference to "one's primary purpose of life". It is no secret the fact that Buddhists believe in reincarnation. Basically, at the start of a new life you are given a "task" to complete. Depending on your karma, the task will be easy or hard to complete.

I often wonder about my purpose in this life. What is it that I have to do? Did I take the right decision by leaving for Brussels? Will I ever reach happiness? I read an interesting article about Dharma once where I found out that you have 3 major crossroads during your life. One is right at the border between adolescence and youth, another one is during your mid-mature life and a final bridge that you have to cross is at the start of your late life.

Now considering the fact that I am 24 years old, I do not think that I have to face the first major change in my life. Probably all these 3 crossroads are "customized" for each individual. Looking back in time though, it is absolutely obvious that in the past 9 months or so my life has suffered major changes. The Wheel of life has been turned and I'm not quite sure about the outcome. I guess I have to live it out and adapt to whatever condition the future would bring.

I could not appreciate what I had so I had to lose it. I could not tell the difference between happiness and sorrow so I had to face them, one after the other and sometimes even simultaneously. Funny how us humans are- never quite convinced that what you have at the moment is the best that you can get.

If you ask me, I think that we all have the same Dharma- to be truly happy!

3 comentarii:

  1. Nice thoughts and words, dear friend. I truly hope that you reach your Dharma, no matter where the journey towards it will take you in the meantime. And I believe crossroads are fun... One just has to realize that we are the ones that hold the freedom and the responsibility of the choice. Without it, there are only 2 ore more virtual roads intersecting.
    Best of luck in Bruxelles and never look back! And if you do look back, chose to remember only those people, moments and things that made you grow as an individual.
    Lots of hapiness to you, Adita!

    An ex-classmate, current workmate :)

  2. I totally agree with what you said there, Dharma has changed my life ever since i discovered the island that it is. I say island because all of our souls are like on an island, life is like an island full of polar bears, hapiness, sadness black smoke. Then after finding Dharma, i felt like my life was more complete, it was like a brute magnetism force attracted me to it, something uncontrollable by men, but with immense power, like it was traveling in space and time. Then i met a few friends, let's call them Locke and Jack, who came to my heart of an island flying in it though it was with an airplane that crashed into my spirit and brought me happiness. They showed me their true Dharmas, big, juicy and hard, like a Dharma should be, and that there are two kinds of people: us and the others. Can't wait to read from you again, sincerely, Eliza Mitchell.

    Firstly, it's "life is like a box of chocolate".

  3. Thank you both for your kind words. These comments just keep me going on and hoping to find serenity one day.